If You Want To Be Good At Anything in Life, Be Prepared To Be Bad at it First

Nothing worthwhile in life has ever come by wishful thinking nor by sheer luck!
To Be Good At Anything in Life, Be Prepared To Be Bad at it First
To Be Good At Anything in Life, Be Prepared To Be Bad at it First

In this article, I will be writing about a topic that’s close to my heart, something that I’ve found to be a universal truth in my own life, and I’m sure many of you can relate to it as well. It’s the quote, “If you want to be good at anything in life, and its practical implications.”

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you are hoping, and praying for everything to get better? I believe this resonates with most of us; unfortunately, wishful thinking is impotent and will do nothing to change the reality of the situation. This cuts across every aspect of life, be it, family, relationship, body shape, dream lifestyle, or career-wise, just to mention a few.

I have been there as well, back in the University, while studying for my Engineering Degree, I took some lessons to play the guitar, for example. At first, I was excited, even bought a new guitar, and I was ready to rock. But then, when I sat down to play, my fingers could not cooperate at the start. They were stiff and sore, and they fumbled over the strings, producing sounds that were anything but musical.

Or maybe you’ve decided to get fit and join a local football or basketball team. You show up to the first practice, eager to make a good impression. But as soon as you try to dribble the ball, you find yourself tripping over your own feet, watching in dismay as the ball rolls away from you. It’s embarrassing, it’s frustrating, and it’s a blow to your ego.

The only way to get good at something is to be bad at it for a while. And I’m not talking about being a little bit bad; I’m talking about being spectacularly bad, the kind of bad that makes you question why you even started in the first place. You have to be prepared to make a fool of yourself, to fall flat on your face, and to get back up again, time and time again. Learning any new skill is a messy, humbling, and often embarrassing process at first. But it’s also a necessary one. Because it’s through those struggles, through that process of trial and error, that we begin to learn and improve.

We’ve all heard the saying “practice makes perfect,” and it’s a cliché for a reason because it’s true. But the problem is, most of us don’t want to go through the practice part. We want to skip straight to the perfection. We want to bypass the hours of tedious, frustrating repetition and jump right to the end, where we’re the ones making it look easy. But it doesn’t work that way. As soon as we encounter those inevitable beginner hurdles, our enthusiasm wanes. We’re tempted to give up because we’re not instantly amazing at this new thing we’ve tried.

It’s incredibly easy to get discouraged in these moments. You look around and see others who seem to be performing effortlessly. They’re the ones who can strum a guitar with ease, bending notes and playing chords that sound heavenly. They’re the ones who can dribble, pass, and shoot with a grace that seems almost innate. And there you are, struggling to make sense of it all, wondering, “How in the world am I ever going to be that good?”

But here’s the crucial thing to remember – those experts, those maestros of their craft, they weren’t born with those skills. Every master and expert in any field was once a disaster, as you do not rise to the level of your goals, but you fall to the level of your systems. They didn’t just pick up a guitar one day and start shredding solos, nor did they step onto a soccer field and immediately start scoring goals. No, once upon a time, they were beginners too. They were the ones with sore fingers and bruised shins, fumbling their way through the basics, making mistake after mistake.

To be good at something, always be willing to be bad at it first. That way, you always have scope for improvement, and by far, the best improvement is in yourself. First of all, you have to be willing to be bad at it.

Learning and skill development are processes, not instant gratifications. So, instead of giving up on something if you don’t execute it perfectly the first time you try, understand that persistence counts for far more than “natural” talent, and hard work beats talent when talent does not work. One of the brilliant things about us humans is that we can learn how to stick with being bad at something long enough to become good at it.

Every day ALWAYS presents the opportunity to make course corrections and improve. Committed decisions backed by a heartfelt vision that is reinforced daily through inspired action will become one’s reality as sure as a nurtured seed becomes a tree.

So here’s my advice to you, and it’s advice that I’ve had to take to heart many times myself:

Always be patient with yourself. Don’t fall into the trap of comparing your Day 1 self with someone else’s Year 10 self. It’s not a fair comparison, and it’s only going to lead to unnecessary frustration. Instead, remind yourself that even the greats, the legends in any field, messed up a ton when they were starting out. They had days where nothing seemed to go right, where every note was off-key, every shot was off-target. But they didn’t let that stop them. They stayed committed to regular practice, and over time, they improved. They got a little bit better each day, each week, each month, until one day, they were the ones making it look easy.

Mike Kipruto

So the next time you’re feeling down on yourself because you’re struggling to learn something new, remember this quote: “If you want to be good at anything in life, be prepared to be bad at it first.” Embrace the suck. Allow yourself to be a disaster for a while. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Instead, recognize that it’s a part of the process, a necessary step on the path to proficiency. Over time, with dedication and persistence, you’ll get the hang of it. You’ll start to see progress, and those moments of progress will fuel your desire to keep going.

The journey to mastery is a humbling one, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. There’s nothing quite like the feeling of looking back and realizing how far you’ve come, of being able to do something with ease that once seemed impossible. So stick with it, friends. Keep pushing through the awkwardness and the frustration. Keep practicing, keep learning, and keep growing. You’ve got this. And remember, every expert was once a beginner. Every master was once a disaster. Your journey is no different, and your potential is limitless.

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